In our daily life, and especially as we approach death, we should forgive people who have harmed us, engage in purification practice, recollect the Buddha, and meditate on love, compassion, and wisdom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The best way to help friends and family prepare for death is to encourage them while they are alive to abandon non-virtue<\/em> and engage in purification to avoid unfortunate rebirths, and to create virtue to ensure that they have causes for a good rebirth.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Encourage them to be generous and kind to others, and to forgive others and not hold grudges. Avoid involving them in divisive speech, harsh speech, or idle talk. In this way, they will create merit and will have no regrets when they die.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The best procedure to follow at the time of death depends on the person. In general, as someone approaches death, avoid disturbing their mind with unnecessary emotional outpourings, spiritual ideas that will confuse them, or idle talk. Help them to recall something virtuous\u2014the Three Jewels, compassion, generosity, and so on\u2014with which they are already familiar. Encourage them to rejoice in their own and others\u2019 virtues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If they have no religion, gently speak to them about forgiveness, love, compassion, and hope\u2014qualities that everyone appreciates and that will make their mind virtuous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n No matter what religion a dying person follows, encourage them to do the practices with which they are familiar. Encourage a Christian to forgive others, develop a kind heart, pray to God, and think of Jesus\u2019s benevolent qualities. Speak to a Jew, Hindu, or Muslim according to the beliefs and concepts of their religion. These are more familiar and comforting to the dying person, and will facilitate their leaving this life peacefully. Never try to convert another person on their deathbed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Buddhists can do a variety of practices, depending on their level of practice. Remind a dying Dharma friend of a practice they have trained in and guide them through it if they wish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When it is our turn to die, we should likewise focus on a familiar practice. Since our mental power and alertness decrease at the time of death, forcing ourselves or others to do a new practice at that time will be confusing<\/p>\n\n\n\n Beneficial practices for Buddhists to do while dying include taking refuge in the Three Jewels, which enables our mind to relax and rest in a virtuous state, which is conducive for the ripening of constructive karma, which in turn will propel our mindstream to take a good rebirth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Developing a kind heart, generating bodhicitta<\/em>, and doing the taking and giving meditation at the time of death also places our mind in a positive and fearless state. Reflecting on emptiness calms grasping and fear, enabling us to peacefully let go of this life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We should dedicate all the merit we have created during our lifetime for the awakening of ourselves and all sentient beings. We should pray to be born in a body and environment where we can meet and properly rely on fully qualified Fundamental Vehicle, Mah\u0101y\u0101na, and Vajray\u0101na spiritual mentors, learn under their guidance, and practice without obstacles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In short, we must do what is suitable to our level of mind and to the circumstances we are in. Whatever we do, we should be content and focus on that practice as best as we can without having doubts that perhaps we should be doing another, more effective practice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Source<\/strong>: Based on The Foundation of Buddhist Practice: The Library of Wisdom and Compassion<\/em> (Volume 2) by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Thubten Chodron (Wisdom Publications)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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